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| Avoiding Holiday Family Feuds Between Women Relatives |
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| TS-Si News Service | |||
| Thursday, 29 November 2007 20:00 | |||
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remember: the holiday will end soon
State College, PA, USA. Dr. Cheryl Dellasega believes in the best of women and girls, saying "It's a stereotype to say women are naturally mean. If anything, we long to connect and have positive relationships, especially with female family members."But — holidays often bring families together often for dinners and activities. Sometimes, the emotional dramas between women family members can stir up chaos, instead of goodwill, says the Penn State researcher.
 Dellasega is a professor of humanities and women's studies (Penn State College of Medicine). She examines the harsher reality of female family feuds — sisters who sabotage, ex-wives waging subtle warfare, and other family situations where women emotionally wound each other.  Forced to Be Family: A Guide for Living with Sinister Sisters, Drama Mamas, and Infuriating In-Laws. Cheryl Dellasega, PhD. Wiley, John & Sons. ISBN-13: 978-0-470-04999-0. Hardcover. 272 pp. September 2007. Her new book offers clinical insights and scary real-life stories to explain why these female family antagonisms have a special power to hurt and offers practical strategies to help restore relationships and reclaim lives.
"Going home for the holidays" If so, you may witness versions of gossip, exclusion and other hurtful behaviors: the meddling mother who can't believe your son dropped out of college, or the sinister sister-in-law locked in competition to prove her children are brighter, smarter, better behaved, and more attractive than yours," says Dellasega.
"In my work with women caught up in the maelstrom of relational aggression, some of the most emotional-and intractable-stories I hear involve female relatives."
Female family feuds involve a special brand of Relational Aggression (RA) that can hurt more than the barbs of a seventh grade girl ever did, according to the researcher.
“After all, your relatives are supposed to love you unconditionally – what does it say about you if they don't” she asks. “There's all the potential ammunition they have against you, including the gritty details of your disastrous first marriage and the times your children behaved badly (especially in 1990 when your firstborn broke your mother's priceless glass figurine)."
In an attempt to help the reader understand and cope with the most difficult aspects of Relative RA, the book is built around six insights into female relationships within families:
The drive to preserve family ties, even when those connections aren't so positive, is called kin keeping. No matter what disputes arise among those in attendance, the show will go on as it has for generations.
To ease stress and anxiety prior to the holidays, the Penn State researcher suggests creating a plan that circumvents female family feuds:
Dellasega has conducted research on female relationship issues and relationship aggression, a form of bullying by girls and women. Her books include: "Mean Girls Grown Up," "Surviving Ophelia: Mothers Share Their Wisdom in Navigating the Tumultuous Teenage Years," "The Starving Family" and "Girl Wars: Twelve Tried and True Strategies for Ending Adolescent Aggression."
Forced to Be Family: A Guide for Living with Sinister Sisters, Drama Mamas, and Infuriating In-Laws. Cheryl Dellasega, PhD. Wiley, John & Sons. ISBN-13: 978-0-470-04999-0. Hardcover. 272 pp. September 2007.
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